YOU SHOULD QUIT HIM TONIGHT

Would you rather have your skin change color based on your emotions, or tattoos appear all over your body depicting what you did last night?

Try not to be a coward about it. Quit messaging him when you're already out the door and safely down the street, when you don’t have to see him if he cries or begs you to stay. Sit him down, just the two of you — in your car if you have to, fogged up from inside by your nervous breathing — and tell him. Tell him you have to go.

It's not him. Not by any stretch of the imagination, in any case. You have constantly detected this would be a period in your life when you shouldn't be tied down, shouldn’t have anyone else to please or whose expectations you should meet. When you were a little girl, you used to say that you would be married by this age, but when you actually came near it you realized just how young it was. You couldn’t be married at this age.

Particularly not to him!

Perhaps you read such a large number of books, observed an excessive number of films, and got too clear an image of the sort of man you would need to love you. And that man was not like him. He is indifferent to so many things, doesn’t care for his life or his friends or his apartment (or you) in the way you imagine a man should. He doesn’t think ahead, doesn’t surprise, doesn’t wake you up with a text message saying he loves you or make you dinner (even if he burns the chicken again). You arranged his birthday party for almost two months previously the genuine day, and he neglected to get you a present.

You should abandon him today around evening time since you continue discussing your goals, pretty much every one of the things you need to do one year from now to improve yourself a man, but when you picture that better person, she is always alone. She is off living some great adventure that she could never do when tied down to his very narrow horizons. With him, you feel that you can plan out your entire future, and never really enjoy it. You are too young to be settling for anything, especially someone who makes you feel like you’re giving up on so much.

Locate a decent method to let him know, and remain on subject. Plan it out if you need to. Write a dialogue, make use of search engines and practice it in the shower at launch at the gym. Don’t let yourself get distracted by the familiar way he smells or the feeling of his hand on your cheek again, in the same place it always goes. Don’t meet him in the eyes if you can’t do it without crying. You don’t owe him another night.

Tell the young lady still within you, the one who imagined you would be married at this age — the person who still lets you know, from time to time, that you should settle down just to be with somebody — that you have so much living left to do. Take her on a trip, take her to another prospective employee meeting, take her out to dinner with companions where you talk about everything except for your connections. Reveal to her that it will be alright.

Also, do it without him.